>Four letter words and eleven year old boys

>This is for any of you who fear my boy may learn more verbiage from your sites than I might approve.

First thing to keep in mind is that he is home schooled. If he were in public school (or private for that matter at this age!) he would be in middle school now – 6th grade. When most of us were in school that was still elementary, as I believe it should still be. But now 11 year olds are folded in with 13 year olds in Middle School. Remember what the general conversation between boys that age would consist of? How often would a smuggled copy of pr0n be the contraband of choice? My bet is that sort of thing is still the norm – and have you listened to the music these kids follow? Or the movies they discuss? The actors they follow-Brittney Spears? P A- L E S E! One of the host of reasons I home school is to maintain some degree of control over this sort of exposure. Kids today are not allowed to be kids for nearly long enough. They only get one crack at it, and I jealously guard the right mine have to those precious few years.

But of course the first comment anyone and everyone has to the idea of homeschooling is “socialisation”, and being able to handle the “real world.” Just because I try to keep him/them from porn, trashy language, trashy music, and pants around their knees does not mean I shelter him/them from reality. By no means is this the case. I actually use every example of such we run across as a teachable moment. I generally point out these sorts of things when we come across them and explain why someone would behave this way, and why they are wrong to do so. We discuss it all. That way my chickadees are aware of uncivilized behavior and are armed with the tools to resist following the lead of such examples. It is not that I try to shelter him but that I want to be the one who influences his perceptions of the world and the behavior of those around him, both good and bad.

How does this apply to you all? Well for starters you are all adults and he knows that. He knows that some things are more acceptable for adults than for kids. He knows that I will turn him every which way but loose if I hear certain words pass his lips, simply because he is still young. He understands that we use certain expletives at certain times to make a pithy point, but that he may not do the same. Add to that he does not read the comments, which is where the majority of pithiness tends to appear. He knows that what we write is not necessarily the way we would speak in public, just ’cause some of you use F Oprah regularly on line does not mean you walk about saying it! Look at your posts my dear friends – most of what goes up there are photographs (of dogs, flowers, and family for the most part), news reports, and well thought out intelligent commentary on the moronic behavior of the “leaders” of our country, or better yet commentary on the moronic writing and ranting of those who claim to be journalists. These are not things from which I need to shield him. These are the things I want him to see and hear. You are the sort of Americans I want him to be aware of. You are good people, caring people, patriotic people. You are the good stuff that makes this country great. Maybe you get frustrated, but usually for very good reason – the same reasons he actually hears me rant.

Of course there are a couple on my list of links that he has been advised not to check, ever, without asking me first πŸ™‚ And he actually listens to me so I don’t worry too much.

So, please, don’t let it cross your mind that my 11 year old might be reading you today – after all, this stuff is on the net, someone else’s 7 year old might be reading it πŸ˜‰

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9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Oddybobo
    Apr 17, 2009 @ 11:55:00

    >*blush* no doubt I’m one he’s not to check. ;)I only cuss when I rant – so there’s that. πŸ˜‰

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  2. patti
    Apr 17, 2009 @ 11:58:00

    >You are not on the do not read list! We like little boy pics :)Honestly none of you are on the do not read list – I just like to poke at you a little.

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  3. diamond dave
    Apr 17, 2009 @ 12:50:00

    >I actually removed one post of mine because of a link on it to a site that I decided may be more appropriately shared via email with friends rather than publicly posted (some animated adult stuff that an eleven year old has no business looking at). I’d actually considered removing it for a while because it pushed my own posting boundaries a little closer for comfort, but hearing about kids possibly lurking around my blog sorta decided it for me. No regrets, just a decision I made after careful thought. I encourage thoughtful comment and keeping the cursing down to a minimum, not so much as I get offended (it’s hard) but because I discourage people acting and sounding like morons on my site. (Unless the discussion is about Nancy Pelosi, Rosie O’Donnell, 9/11 conspiracy theorists, or Holocaust non-believers. Then carpet f-bomb away.) Most of the blogs I read and link to kinda follow the same format.

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  4. patti
    Apr 17, 2009 @ 13:23:00

    >nancy, rosie, geraldine garofalo, and their ilk are the definition of moron. i posted today to try to keep all of you from changing your blogs because of the kid. please don’t be uncomfortable because of him – your blogs are your own spots to vent or rant as you see fit. he can handle it, and if there is something i don’t think he can deal with- it is my responsibility to deal with that. i’m all for carpet bombing the same things, and i wouldn’t link anyone i felt was dangerous cause all my kids are looking, the grown up ones as well as the shorter one. the computer sits in the family room where we all pretty much live. he is not going to get into anything i don’t know about – trust me.besides, we’ve been to europe – have you guys seen the billboards and commercials in europe? OMG! some of those are too racey for me!

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  5. Oddybobo
    Apr 17, 2009 @ 16:50:00

    >He’ll love the pics of my dog that I’ll post over the weekend! πŸ˜‰

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  6. patti
    Apr 17, 2009 @ 18:38:00

    >doggie pics! yes, we both like those.

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  7. pamibe
    Apr 18, 2009 @ 09:40:00

    >I’m not changing; didn’t really give it much thought. You’ve a proven track record as both a wonderful mother *and* teacher and I have faith that you will let him know where he can and cannot tread. πŸ˜‰

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  8. Peter
    Apr 22, 2009 @ 03:54:00

    >I try real hard to make my blog something my youngest grandchildren can let the older ones read to them. I’ve found I can rant without ugly words. Unless I’m cursing the computer but that’s not on my blog, or in your comments. Just be careful sometimes because I have been able to rent myself out as a bad example.

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  9. patti
    Apr 22, 2009 @ 16:42:00

    >Well Pete, the boy, like his mom, as a particular fondness for your blog πŸ™‚

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